Saturday, February 20, 2016

#CreativeKickstart January

#CreativeKickstart is a hashtag to share what we've been making and being inspired by each month, created by my merfriend Cuttlefishlove. I kept up with it for a few months last year but then lost track. This year I want to post a photo for each month. I think it will be really interesting to look back at the end of the year and see my creative journey!

Wednesday, February 10, 2016

Dealing With Estrangement

For some time, I have been estranged from an immediate family member. The relationship had always been complicated, and after some soul searching and a few upsetting events, I came to the conclusion that I could no longer continue to have this person in my life. It was causing me too much pain.

For a long time I struggled with my decision, feeling that I was being unkind, that I owed this person a relationship with me. It can be really difficult to explain familial estrangement, or for that matter any kind of not-entirely-perfect family relationship, to other people, and sometimes these interactions can reinforce feelings of being selfish or ungrateful. We are socialised to believe that family is everything, and that we owe them something for bringing us up. That if we choose to cut off from our family, we are the bad guy in the situation. It takes a lot of courage to break out of that, and it can be very hard, and very lonely.

Monday, February 01, 2016

Brighton Beach

I think when people imagine Brighton Beach, the stereotypical images of a sunny beach filled with tourists and locals all sunbathing on towels spring to mind.